Anger Management

Anger will hurt you and those around you - Get rid of it

What is anger for?
Nowadays anger is a bit like an emotional appendix, far more trouble than it's worth!  In primitive man anger prepared us for a fight. It gets us ready for feats of physical strength and to resist pain.
It can still be quite a good motivator sometimes (though there are much better ones) but really it has very little useful purpose in todays world.

What does anger do to us?
Even mild anger (or irritability) has a detrimental physical effect. It disrupts the digestion, speeds up ageing of the skin, increases blood pressure and increases the risk of heart attack and strokes. Plus of course, it makes people really unpopular.

Why do we have huge arguments about very unimportant issues?
That's because your unconscious mind has effectively filed away your entire history of anger for reference.  Unless that file gets cleared out (which we can do using Time Line Therapy TM ) then instead of experiencing just the anger caused by the current situation you go back and dredge up everything else that ever made you angry as well.

Why do some people always seem angry?
There can be many reasons. For example anger is a very basic and deep seated emotion. That means that when we run out of, or lose touch with the the resources we need to deal with a situation then anger is where we tend to fall back to.  By getting somebody more in touch with the internal resources that they already have, that can be greatly reduced.
Another possibility is that the physiological effects of anger can be very similar to those of sexual arousal. Some say that that can be addictive or at least habit forming.  It's not coincidence that in some areas Saturday night still involves too much beer and a fight.

What can we do about it?
Fortunately quite a lot. We can work on taking the anger out our past experiences, that will free up a lot of energy to deal with today.  We can work on changing the strategies that someone has for getting angry and we can put them more in touch with their own internal resources for dealing with stressful situations.
We can use hypnosis to break the habit of anger and we can use  NLP techniques to find and deal with underlying emotional problems that make it worse.

How long will it take?
Anger is of course, a very personal area, so there won't be a one size fits all solution.  Usually four to six sessions over a period of three or four months will bring about lasting change.